Dating as an introvert, here's how to keep it fun and relaxed!
Online dating can be challenging for anyone, but for introverts, the barrier can be extra high. Introverts draw energy from spending time alone and often need time to get to know new people. For lesbian and bisexual women who are introverts, the idea of meeting new women can be extra exciting or even a bit stressful. But online dating also offers unique benefits for introverted women looking for a meaningful relationship or exciting date. In this blog, we’ll give you tips on how you, as an introvert, can make sure that dating is not only fun but, more importantly, relaxed!
Choose a dating site that suits you
It is important to choose a dating site where you feel comfortable. Dating sites that cater to lesbian and bisexual women, like ours, offer a safe environment to date without worrying about your sexuality. You can also set filters and preferences to better match potential matches to what you’re looking for, without being overwhelmed by an overload of choices in terms of profiles.
Make sure you know what you're looking for
Before you start swiping or searching profiles, it’s helpful to think about exactly what you’re looking for in a partner and relationship. What kind of person would make you happy? By answering these questions, not only will you gain more insight into yourself, but you can also search more purposefully for someone who is a good fit for you.
When you start chatting
Introverts prefer to choose in-depth conversations over superficial small talk. Online dating gives you the space to communicate first through messages, such as chat. This is ideal if you are uncomfortable with face-to-face encounters. Start with simple topics, such as hobbies or interests, and let the conversation flow naturally that way. Once you feel comfortable, you can slowly show more of yourself.
Open up and be yourself
Introverts are good at being in their own bubble, but during a date it is actually important to open up to the other person. Of course, you don’t have to share everything on the first date, but do show who you are. Be yourself! For example, write in your profile that you are introverted and prefer to start quietly in conversations and encounters. This helps manage expectations and also immediately attracts the right people who understand and respect this and who may even recognize themselves in this.
Plan calm and relaxed dates
When you are ready to meet someone in real life, try to plan a date that suits your introverted nature. Instead of crowded bars or noisy events, suggest taking a quiet walk, having coffee at a cozy cafe, or visiting a museum together. There are generally less stimuli in these types of environments, making it easier to have a deep conversation and really connect with your date. Also consider the time of day you plan your date. Generally, a weekday is a lot quieter than the weekend. And meeting in the morning or afternoon is also often quieter than the evening.
Don't overstep your bounds
Online dating can sometimes be overwhelming, especially if you’re introverted and not used to constant social interaction. It’s okay to set boundaries and take regular breaks. Don’t force yourself to be online constantly or keep conversations going all the time. Also, give yourself space to recharge and make sure you only go on dates when you have the energy for it.
Accept your own pace
It’s tempting to compare yourself to others who may seem to move faster in dating or meet new people much more easily, but always remember that everyone has their own pace. As an introvert, it’s important to respect your own boundaries and give yourself time to get to know someone. You really don’t have to hurry, the right person will accept you as you are, including the time you need to build rapport.
In short..
Online dating offers introverted women the chance to meet new people at their own pace and quietly build relationships. By staying close to yourself, setting boundaries and giving yourself space to date in your own way, you will find that your search for an exciting date or serious relationship becomes a success and you can actually enjoy it. Because dating should of course be fun and relaxed!